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Many people turn to online dating after they have lost a spouse either through divorce or death. Or, when the end of the year approaches, many singles have that desire to spend the holidays with someone special. Dating online holds a curiosity because it doesn't involve too much commitment or energy in the very beginning, just some of your time. Remember that you will only get out of it what you are willing to put in. If your are deciding for the first time whether to try this type of dating it may help you to know a little more about it.
In order to get a better idea of how this works so that you can decide whether online dating is for you, here are some details as to what you can expect:
Internet Dating Profiles
When you first go on to an online dating website you will be asked by the service to fill out an online profile. This is a section of the website that will give people an idea of the type of person you are and what you value. Your profile acts like your introduction to everyone and it tells people what they can expect from you.
Although some people have a tendency to lie on their profiles because they are afraid that people will reject them for some reason, it is better to tell the truth. You don't have to tell every little detail about yourself, but you do have to give enough information for them to want to keep reading and maybe send you an email.
Give information about yourself, but do not add a lot of personal information like your home telephone number, address or any identifying information. This is for your privacy and protection because people you are not familiar with will look at your profile.
You will also have a chance to read other singles profiles to see whether they are interesting enough for you to contact. Remember that dating services are about meeting people and getting to know them as much as it is for them to get to know you.
Sending e-mails / Communicating Online
The next thing you will be doing is sending emails to people who look interesting. It is a good idea to also learn how to use the instant messaging feature that most of the dating services offer because some people will want to contact you in real time.
When you send an email, if it is someone that you find interesting, you can be a little flirty but not too much. You want to get them interested, but you don't want to promise anything that you don't really mean. You will know right away from the return emails whether this is someone you want to continue talking with, or whether you want to move on.
It's a good idea to send several emails to a variety of people so you will get to know them faster.
The First Date
For your first date you will want to meet the person at a public place for a very short time. This will give you an opportunity to check them out and see if they are interesting enough to go out with again.
Pros and Cons of Online Dating Services
Internet dating is relatively inexpensive and it allows you to meet lots of people within a short amount of time. The online profiles are fun to read and they are usually very interesting. Sometimes people will lie on their profiles and some might be married, but looking to play around. Some people can be disappointing too because they are not truthful with their pictures. Staying away from free sites will help you guard yourself from some of these negative situations of online dating.
After you sift through all of this information, it is important that if you are still curious you should sign up with one service and see what happens. You may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.