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First Date Tips for Men

It is typically the man’s job to plan the first date. This involves a lot of crucial decision making, which could make or break the relationship before it has a chance to begin. Choosing activities you will both enjoy, asking the right questions, and remembering everything you need for the date may be difficult, and stress can cause you to forget things. Wouldn’t it be much easier if there was an all-inclusive list that would remind you of what you need to do, and even when to do it? Below is a timeline of events that can be followed for simple first date preparation, a lower stress level, and an ultimately flawless evening.

One Week before Your Date

  • Ask your potential love interest if she would be interested in going on a date with you.
  • At this point, it is also important to find out what kinds of food she likes and what kinds of activities she enjoys. For example, finding out if your date has any dietary restrictions is vital.

Five Days Before Your Date

  • Decide on a restaurant and make reservations.
  • If you are planning on a more casual restaurant, check the hours of operation to make sure that the establishment will be open during your date. For example, some restaurants are closed on certain days, are not open for lunch, or open only for dinner at a certain time each day.
  • Deciding on your other date activities is also a good idea. Be sure to consider the weather, and have a backup plan.

3 Days Before Your Date

  • Prepare things to talk about by watching the news or reading the newspaper. You may want to write these things down and practice conversation, but be sure to leave this list at home when the big day comes!
  • If you have met this person through online dating, it may be a good idea to reread their profile to review their background, interests, and hobbies.

One Day Before Your Date

  • If reservations were required for the chosen restaurant or event that you are attending, call to confirm them.
  • If this is a place that you have never been before, it is also a good idea to get directions and possibly even follow them to make sure that you don’t get lost.
  • It is also recommended that you determine if you are picking up your date, or if you are meeting at the establishment.
  • If you are picking up your date, get directions and determine how far ahead of time you will need to pick her up in order to make your reservation.
  • Be sure to not eat anything with lots of spices or garlic in order to prevent embarrassing bad breath.

The Day of - Hours Leading Up to the Date

  • Determine what you will wear. Choose clothes that match, are clean, and are presentable. Make sure that you consider the weather, and the activities you will be doing on your date and dress appropriately.
  • Shower and be well groomed. This includes shaving, clipping fingernails, wearing antiperspirants, brushing teeth, etc.
  • Call your date a few hours ahead of time to confirm the plans for the evening and to tell her that you are looking forward to the date.
  • Make sure that your car is full of gas, that you have her cell phone number and the number for the restaurant with you. Don’t be late, but if you are, be sure to call her.
  • If the evening calls for them, remember to bring any tickets or proof of reservation (if made online).
  • Make sure you have your wallet and plenty of money for the evening. If you need cash be sure to stop at the ATM before you pick up your date.

During the Date

  • Don’t let your nervousness and anxiety get the best of you, and remember to smile.
  • Be friendly and confident in your conversation, but don’t be arrogant. The goal is to have easy and flowing conversation about mutual topics.
  • Be sure to ask your date questions, but don’t be too personal. Ask about her work, interests, general background, etc.
  • Be sure to limit your alcohol intake to avoid embarrassing yourself (especially if you are driving). Another good tip is if she doesn’t order alcohol, then you may not want to either.
  • Do not answer your cell phone, send text messages, or look at the time, as these are all rude gestures and can make your date feel uncomfortable.
  • Throw in some romantic gestures such as opening her car door, holding the door for her, or pulling out her chair, but don’t be overbearing.
  • If the date does not go well, be cordial and tell her it was nice meeting her.
  • If the date does go well, tell her you enjoy her company and don’t be afraid to ask for a second date if you think that the feelings are mutual. If she agrees, tell her you will call her in a few days to make plans. A simple hug, or kiss on the cheek may be given if it feels appropriate.

The first date is something to be enjoyed, and should not be feared or worried about. Following this list should hopefully help you to stay on track and avoid forgetting something crucial (like your wallet!). Of course, all circumstances are different and your preparation may vary from what is included above. Remember to remain calm, be yourself, and keep an open mind. If at first you aren’t sure about your date, by the end of the evening you may realize that you have more of a connection than you thought.