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First Date Tips for Women

While the men typically take care of the major details of the date, women usually become more stressed about the smaller issues such as what to wear and eating in front of their date. Of course, remembering everything that needs to be done can be overwhelming in itself. First date anxiety is very common, but with the proper preparation, the stress can be significantly reduced, confidence can be built, and a great first date can ensue. If only there was a list that was tailored specifically for women that could help in this preparation. Fortunately, there is one.

One Week Before Your Date

  • When you agree to the date, make sure that you are clear about what your expectations are. This way there is no misunderstanding about the meeting and what will occur afterwards.
  • Tell your date at this time, if you have any dietary restrictions, such as being a vegetarian or vegan, and what kinds of activities you enjoy and don’t enjoy. This prevents him from having to change his plans at a later date, and avoids an uncomfortable evening for the both of you.

Five Days Before Your Date

  • If you know what the plans are for the evening, familiarize yourself with the event, venue, or activity ahead of time to prevent surprise, distaste, or disappointment from showing on the day of. Be sure to keep an open mind, unless it is something you are completely uncomfortable with.
  • If you need to go shopping for a new outfit, give yourself plenty of time. Waiting until the day of the date can cause stress and may cause you to run behind schedule.

Three Days Before Your Date

  • Decide what you are going to wear. The first date is about getting to know one another so save your more revealing outfits for a later date. Be sure to consider the weather and all of the activities that are planned for the evening, and dress appropriately.
  • If you have purchased new shoes, wear them around the house to break them in. This will help to prevent blisters and pain during the date. If they are not comfortable at all, choose something more practical.
  • Decide what you will do with your hair to prevent last-minute stress and to keep from making yourself late.
  • Determine topics to discuss on your date, in order to promote easy conversation and prevent awkward silences. Review your date’s online profile to review their information and interests, and read the newspaper or watch the news to learn more about current events. Avoid anything too controversial.

One Day Before Your Date

  • Determine if your date will pick you up, or if you will meet there. If you are uncomfortable being picked up, do not give in, and tell your date that you will meet them.
  • If you are driving, be sure to get directions and consider driving the route ahead of time to make sure that you don’t get lost.
  • Avoid spicy food and garlic for 24 hours before the date in order to prevent bad breath.

The Day of - Hours Leading Up to the Date

  • Set a timeline for yourself and stick to it. Focus on the activities you have planned for the day in order to prevent yourself from becoming nervous or anxious.
  • Get ready in enough time that you have a second to prepare yourself before running out the door, but not too early that you have time to second guess yourself and become stressed.
  • Tell a friend or family member where you are going for your date, your date’s name, and plan to call them as soon as you get home.
  • If you are driving, be sure that you have plenty of gas. It is also a good idea to have the phone number for the establishment, and your date’s cell number as well, in case you get lost or are running late.
  • Be sure to remove all valuables and un-needed credit cards from your wallet and purse, but keep a small stash of emergency money.

During the Date

  • Don’t let your stress and nervousness show in your facial expressions—be sure to smile and remain calm.
  • Don’t order anything overly expensive. While your date may tell you to order anything you want, it doesn’t mean you should get the most expensive entrĂ©e on the menu.
  • Don’t be afraid to eat in front of your date. Order the same foods you would order if you were out with a friend.
  • Ask your date questions in order prevent the conversation from revolving around yourself. Ask about his likes and dislikes, hobbies, job, etc but don’t pry and avoid questions that you wouldn’t be comfortable answering yourself.
  • Limit your alcohol intake, or eliminate it altogether in order to stay completely alert throughout the evening.
  • Watch your body language to prevent sending the wrong message, or mixed signals.
  • If your date doesn’t go well, remain friendly and tell him that you had a nice time. If they ask for a second date, kindly tell them that you don’t feel compatible, or tell them that you will get back to them. If you do this, be sure to tell them as soon as possible by phone or email that you are not interested in a second meeting.
  • If your date does go well and you would like to see this person again, tell them so. If they ask for a second date, agree to make plans in a few days. If you are comfortable with it, a hug or kiss on the cheek may be given.

Meeting with a potential love interest for a first date can make anyone stressed, but overcoming these feelings of anxiety is essential in order to make your best first impression and to enjoy yourself as much as possible. While everyone’s situation is different, this list is meant to give you a guideline to follow with a few helpful tips, in hopes of making you more at ease. Without the stress and anxiety, you are sure to have a better time and focus more attention on the possible connection you have with your date. Just stay calm, be yourself, and have fun!