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8 Tips That Could Lead to a Better Conversation

Everyone struggles at times to get a conversation started, not to mention keeping it going. If you follow these simple guidelines, you will likely feel more comfortable in these situations.

  1. Be Open About How Difficult it is to Make Conversation
    If you are having trouble chatting with your date, then your date is likely thinking the same thing. Be honest about how awkward the situation is for you. Chances are when you starting talking about it, you have probably made the first step in correcting the problem and you will both move on to better dialogue.
  2. Read About Current Events
    The reports on the news are not always pleasant but try and make an effort to keep up with what is going on in the world so you can make conversation about it. Try to learn about a variety of topics such as your community, sports, and politics. Having even just a small amount of knowledge about these things will help you make small talk when conversation is running short.
  3. Notice the Small Things
    Mention something about the clothing or an accessory that the other person has or is wearing. Complimenting your date about a detail like this shows that you are paying attention and it will likely lead to more chatting between the two of you. Showing that you are observant about the people with you and your surroundings is typically a great conversation starter, especially for first dates.
  4. Follow Up on What Has Been Said
    It is important when you are talking with someone to really engage in the conversation. Follow up on what the other person has said and ask questions when appropriate. This is a great way to learn more about someone on a first date!
  5. Talk About Past Conversations
    Even when you are on a first date, mention something from one of your initial talks, or a topic that you discussed on the phone as you were planning the date. Make a point to remember details that the other person has shared with you and put forth an effort to retain them so you can bring them up in a later conversation.
  6. Ask Open-Ended Questions
    When you ask questions that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer, you have made the first step in starting a conversation. If a chat does not get started with the first question, don’t give up. Eventually you will ask a question that will get the dialogue going in the right direction.
  7. Lighten Up
    If you are nervous, chances are that your date will pick up on that right away. Try to relax and not let it show that you are dealing with nerves. If you are anxious, your date will likely become more uneasy and the conversation, not to mention the date itself, will suffer for it!
  8. Move on When Necessary
    If the conversation is not progressing, then move on to a different topic. Change the subject instead of trying to stick with what is not working. Every piece of dialogue that is started is not always going to work with you and your date. Try to find common ground and continue conversation in that direction instead.