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How to Have a Positive Online Dating Experience

When you are ready to get involved with online dating, it is important to keep a positive attitude and not to get discouraged too easily. Here is some good advice on how to keep the experience as fun and rewarding as possible.

  • Be aware of what you want out of the experience. Don’t be afraid to think specifically about the kind of person you are hoping to meet. Make a list of the qualities you want in a date or partner, as well as the things you do not want. Also consider what types of traits are deal breakers. The more you have the details of your goal outlined, the better your results will be.
  • Do not pay attention to people who have negative opinions about online dating. Stay positive! At the very least, try to look at it as a way to meet new people. Ignore other people’s "horror stories" about online dating. Your experience will likely be completely different.
  • Try to write an upbeat profile description of yourself. State clearly what types of people you are hoping to find (for example, “I want someone who is educated and likes to travel.”). Try to stay away from demands (such as, “No complainers.”) or anything specific to your past experiences. When writing about yourself, be sure to let your potential dates know what you enjoy and all the positive qualities that you have to offer.
  • Use a flattering picture for your profile and make sure it is current. It’s a good idea to use a picture that has been taken recently (as in the last few months) so it truly reflects what you look like right now. Have a friend take some photos for you and help you pick the one that is the best.
  • Don’t wait around to be contacted by the perfect person. Do your own searches and send a brief message to people that you find interesting. Include in the messages a few sentences about yourself and state that you would really like to hear back from them.
  • If you end up going out on a date, don’t be discouraged if it is obvious that the person is not “the one”.  Be realistic. You will probably meet many great people who just aren’t quite right for you, it’s only natural. But don't worry if it takes some time. Eventually, you may meet that very person you described in your profile!